How often we wish we could get a fresh start in life. We recognize that we've made some mistakes, and the past weighs heavily on our mind. We wish we could take back some cruel words, spend more time with someone, or be more forgiving this time.
Each day we try to start afresh but we get upset, and the upset brings back all the negativity. We struggle with memories and emotions and try harder, but we end up frustrated and making things worse by resenting ourselves. The only thing that brings temporary relief is symptom removal, but it does not solve our pain or restore our dignity and self-sovereignty.
I understand, and I also know what you need.
To start again, you need two things:
First you need a way of living and moving and having your being that is calm and not willful. And more importantly a way of speaking and acting gracefully with wisdom and common sense. One where reason leads instead of emotion.
One where intuition is your guide and purposeful patience is your energy to move rather than torment from within or pressures from the outside. One where you are a friend of conscience.
Perhaps now you see what else is needed.
You need a way of dealing with the traumas, baggage, and memories of the past. Mostly those memories are of failure: where we somehow failed, or where we were hasty, impetuous, angry, excited, greedy, prideful or selfish. We moved without wisdom and were tempted away from reason. We became resentful and said or did the wrong thing. We doubted ourselves and lost faith in goodness. We blamed others when we were out of control. But then we turned around and were impatient with others.
Our problems often began when we were kids and we responded to tease and cruelty with anger and resentment. We could not help become upset. After all, we were supposed to be protected from trauma, not exposed to it. Now you must learn how to revisit those unhappy memories graced with patience and understanding.
But before you can have patience and understanding, you must learn how to separate from the negative thoughts and emotions in which you are currently immersed. That is what the meditation helps you to do.
You must learn the secret of observing negative thoughts and emotions calmly in the light of understanding. We all have access to this inner light, but we have fallen away from it though excitement, upset and hiding in the imagination.
In the past you tried to deal with negative memories and emotions (as well as memories of your failings) egotistically. You suppressed and repressed. You struggled with them. You tried to rearrange the past or tried to plan and scheme your way out of the messes you made. But it never worked.
Now things can be different. With the help of the meditation, by not escaping into worries, daydreams, memories or thinking; and by not reaching for some outside distraction—the meditator becomes still and faces Reality. Problems are seen and dealt with in the clear light.
Now the person can live in the Presence in the present. Past memories are observed in the light of the present. One day, there will be no more errors of the past to see--only a beautiful present to live in.
And now graced with the delicate presence of mind, you can find your way to a positive purposeful future.
The meditation and supplemental reading resources are based on a quarter century of experience. The meditation and the accompanying booklet are our most important spiritual recovery resources, perhaps the only ones you will need.
They are provided as a goodwill and humanitarian effort from Roland and the Center for Common Sense Counseling. Roland volunteers his time and limited funds for a good cause. Any small donations he receives help defray his expenses.
The meditation, if you choose to try it, may restore self control and permit you to stand back from negative thoughts, emotions and memories. Once having gained some mental distance (instead of being immersed in the memory), a natural control comes into play which has the power to reverse the process of losing control through over-reacting to our reactions.
The meditation practitioner will then be more composed and able to realize into being positive solutions to life and relationship issues. At this point the supplemental reading materials will add insight to the new found control and will explain and reinforce the positive learning.
Listen free to Part One of the Meditation for Stress and PTSD:
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The 2 Part Meditation for Stress and PTSD
Part 1 Introduction to the Meditative Way of Learning to Cope
Part 2 Practicing the Advanced Meditation for Stress and PTSD
The Meditation eBooklet
You will also be able to download 2 free eBooks:
A Brief Introduction to Stress Management - Click here to look inside
Becoming a Friend of God – Finding Peace of Mind and Courage in an Age of Anxiety - Click here to look inside
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