Waking Up from a Lifetime of Hypnosis
Finding Freedom from Confusion and Compulsion
Copyright © 2015 by Roland Trujillo
This book is dedicated to my wife Sophia who has been there all these years and to my son Jeremiah whose technical help and work has been instrumental in publishing my books, maintaining the website, and producing the radio program.
People's beliefs and convictions are in almost every case gotten at second-hand, and without examination, from authorities who have not themselves examined the questions at issue but have taken them at second-hand from other non-examiners, whose opinions about them were not worth a brass farthing.
Why do smart people do dumb things? In fact, why do you do things that you know are not wise? Why do you drink, smoke, eat too much, spend too much, eat the wrong food, or say the wrong things? Could it be that you are under a spell and don't even know it?
Before you laugh and say that such an idea is absurd, ask yourself why you have done some of the dumb things that messed up your relationships, your health, your finances, or your life.
How about all your compulsions and obsessions? Do you really want to bite your nails, get upset at traffic, or spend too much money?
Could it be that you are not in control of your own life?
Do you ever feel out of control? If so, what are you reacting to and why can't you just stop yourself?
We read in the Bible about something called original sin, and we are told that the human race is laboring under a curse of sin from which we need to be set free by the Messiah.
Could it be that something as simple and seemingly innocuous as hypnosis is part of the curse of sin? Perhaps the curse of sin is the spell of sin, and our misdirected life is what we do under the spell. So just who are the hypnotists in your life who know how to push your buttons, get inside your head, upset you, and motivate you?
This book hopes to answer some of these questions and also give the reader clues to waking up from any trance they may now be in.
What could be more natural than to be fully awake and living with wisdom? If you could find this fully awake and aware state, you could resolve your issues and err no more. You could regain control of your life and move forward to find your purpose for existence.
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If you want frustration and resentment to leave your life, then simply learn the art of not setting goals. If you have no goal, then there will be no more striving, frustration, futility, or resentment.
Goals are almost invariably not your own, but were given you by someone else. That is why you feel pressure when you think of a goal, and also why goals give you a vague discomfort and a sense of futility. The goal is not your goal.
Someone in your past was a motivator (hypnotist) and in a moment of excitement or resentment, you took in the suggestion. After that you are compelled to give yourself to the goal and sacrifice your life to it. When you feel so frustrated and unhappy about it that you can no longer stand it, you might try to rebel—like quit your job, quit school, or label yourself a failure. You might do the opposite of what you were pressured and motivated to do, like eating too much again instead of dieting, or drinking and smoking again instead of abstaining. But you are not happy with these either.
Your struggle against the goal (someone else gave you) only makes it stronger, and even if you throw in the towel and stop trying, the goal and the voice of the tempter is still there in your mind haunting and tormenting you.
Think about it. If you were doing what is natural and intuitively realized, why would there be any frustration of futility associated with it? What could be more natural than just living wisely and doing the next right or wise thing?
It is actually possible to live a happy and stress free productive life, one realized from within and one which brings a sense of improvement without struggle and frustration.
Your problem is that you have become hypnotized, and it happened when you were upset or resentful. You did not know what was happening to you, and that is why I am writing this book, so that I can expose the everyday mechanisms of hypnosis under which you are currently laboring and suffering.
People were cruel and teased you, and then you took in their suggestion. If they told you that you were stupid, and you bought the suggestion, then you spent the rest of your life unconsciously making their prophesy come true by acting stupid which is the suggestion you accepted.
Chances are, you might have become angry at their suggestion (which is how it got in), but then struggled against it—making it stronger.
Other hypnotists were wheeled into place who took over, since you were already in a hypnotic trance, and they suggested ways of proving that you were not stupid.
They challenged you to study, and said that if you got degrees then you would not be stupid. Perhaps you still thought you were stupid, but other hypnotists suggested that if you were a great dancer, entertainer, athlete, or popular, it would take away the curse.
So you did everything the coach, teacher, or the peer group said would make you smart, rich, or popular.
But none of these ideas were your own, though you may have gleefully gone along for the benefit. All the unhappy, addicted, and suicidal Hollywood stars who are miserable and out of control, proving that following other's goals for you, even if such goals bring a measure of worldly success, will not bring happiness.
I used the example of someone being called "stupid," and then taking in the suggestion and acting stupid, or struggling against it, but there are as many suggestions are there are wicked, loveless and misguided people to make them.
You will have to meditate to come up from your hypnotized state and become aware, and then you will be able to slowly begin to see all the suggestions that have resulted in your frustrating, unhappy, compulsive, compensated, unfulfilling lifestyle—one that will kill you unless you wake up from it.
Since your are walking in your own shoes you will have to see just what the unseen influences have been on you, how goals you thought were your own are not, and just who the hypnotist was who first set you on your course of error.
All I can do here is point out the phenomenon to make you aware of it, describe it, and offer some clues to help you see the origins of your own issues, so you can start to break free.
Beware of the grace robbers who inject themselves into a natural thing and ruin it if you are not aware and careful. When a child is seen to have ability in some area—such as playing a musical instrument, or in some sport—parents and other loveless authorities see it as their bounden duty to begin to egg the child on to work, study and compete to become great and famous. At first the child naturally enjoys the tasks, but through struggling and striving at the behest of the authority which has become the motivator, the child will soon be striving to achieve and win, instead of functioning with joy out a natural and timely interest.
Some kids begin to buckle under the pressure and falter. Others keep trying and succeeding but are unhappy. Others try and fail, and then blame themselves or commit suicide. Everyone wonders what went wrong, and no one suspects the doting pressure monger parent and the loveless teachers and coaches she turned the child over to.
Some kids will eventually throw down their musical instrument and never play again. They hate it, but they really hate the pressure from the authority and have transferred the hate to the instrument or to themselves.
This is sad because the child really did have talent and a natural interest in the activity. Had the child been provided opportunities but instead of being pressured and challenged, was shielded from loveless pressure, the child might have become a successful artist or athlete, but also happy and joyful instead of miserable and compensated.
Other kids had ability in some area, but it was not really in accord with what should have been their natural enfoldment. Their true calling was suffocated while they were forced to achieve in a certain line that was not really natural for them.
This does not mean that it is wrong for people to take a job or learn a trade out of necessity or expediency to earn a living, provide for their family or survive. But you can see that there is here a common sense motivation, so it does them no harm and often turns out to be both healthy and leads to a natural success. You see, it is done with a practical or altruistic motive, or perhaps no motive at all, other than to do the next right thing. This is a far cry from studying in order to please mother, teacher, and other pressure mongers who come along.
Of course the guilty and wicked pressure mongers will twist my words and accuse me of saying that kids should allowed to be undisciplined and allowed to run wild without direction. They say that unless a child is motivated, the child will not succeed.
Those who themselves have been pressured know nothing else but pressure. They have lost the ability to function without pressure. All they know is being pressured and pressuring others.
But the truth is that the welfare roles, the skid row areas, the rehab clinics and the insane asylums are filled with people who are there because of the pressure. It was the inhuman pressure to succeed that drove them to failure.
People like Albert Einstein and Apple Computer founder Steve Jobs, succeeded in spite of the pressure. Albert Einstein rebelled against the authoritarian practices he was subjected to, and his learning took place on his own. Thank God he did not become a marijuana smoking dropout from the system, or a loveless unhappy pressure source himself. He would have lost his creativity, his innocence and his joy.
Most people do not know how to rebel creatively. Instead they rebel by turning to drugs, gangs, or graffiti.
The secret to success is to learn to function from inner motivation despite external pressure.
And for parents, the secret to loving parenting is to provide direction and example, without impatience and without seeking to motivate or "build character." Were you to succeed through seduction or cruelty to make the child into a compliant zombie or clone of yourself, you would have only "succeeded" in actually destroying real character—which is a natural unfoldment from within.
When learning is natural, intuitive, and in line with a person's talents and interests, it is a discovery process that is timely and joyous. Moreover, that is the way that God wants us to learn: it's more of a discovery process, like discovering what you already know in your heart.
But through manipulations and pressure, the misguided parent or teacher would have substituted herself for God and intuition, and the child will become forever dependent on pressure from her and people like her in order to function. So watch out for doing unto your children what was done unto you.
Realize that you have not been living your own life. This is one of the most awesome realizations, but one that you must eventually make if you are to take back control of your life and be free.
After you have been pressured away from your center, you became externally oriented. Then all you knew was conformity and rebellion. Neither extreme is good. When faced with a decision, and there was no immediate pressure source around you to direct your behavior, you hunted and pecked in your animal brain, looking for an idea that was pressure educated into you. When you do not find any, you become anxious, not knowing what to do.
Perhaps that is one of the reasons why we are all so authority oriented—we want someone to decide for us, absolving us of responsibility and the need to endlessly plan, scheme and struggle. When decisions are made for us, we simply follow.
The problem is that the kind of authorities who presently rule this world are the types who will set ambitious goals for you and then motivate, pressure, or manipulate you into struggling toward the goals they set for you.
Even when we abdicate our will to another in order to avoid the guilt and frustration of deciding for ourselves, soon we are doing their will, which leads to the same guilt and frustration, as we struggle and strive toward some goal they have set for us.
What I want you to see is that your problems stem from setting goals, those you set yourself or those others set for you.
Even the smallest goal can cause conflict. All you have to do is make it a goal to get to the front of some line first, and you become dehumanized. You rush for the line, forgetting manners or even safety. And if another gets there before you, you resent them. Gone is love of your neighbor. Instead a mean spirit enters, and suddenly the only thing that is important is attainment of your goal. You damn and curse anyone or anything that gets in your way.
Some people develop tremendous guilt for such goals. Perhaps as a child they were instructed (while hypnotically obeying their parents or teacher) to struggle, strive, and work to get the best grades or win the spelling contest.
Fixated on the prize, under the direction of the motivator authority, they did exactly what they were told to do. In the process they became a monster—ambitious, perhaps even enough to cheat or try to sabotage their competitor.
To the entire world, an athlete who cheats or uses performance enhancing drugs looks like the villain. But the real villains are the hypnotist manipulators—the motivators who have been egging the athlete on to win at all costs with threats, bribes, or promises. He or she has been loved and lauded for goal setting.
It now becomes an internalized drive, not the athlete's own, but one given to him. Likewise, later in the athlete's career when there is a threat of loss when performance lags, the athlete, in a trance, will do anything to reach the goal.
The perceptive child, though hypnotized by authorities and seeking to please them, may soon feel alienated from fellow students because he or she doesn’t feel comfortable being ambitious, cruel or a cut throat competitor. Some such perceptive and sensitive children will even unconsciously become sick or somehow mess up so as not to have to engage in the ambitious activity that they are being pressured into.
The ambitious student, athlete, or performer may suddenly find himself or herself in the process of doing something cruel or wrong in order to reach the goal. At this point, he or she tends to wake up, and go to one of two extremes.
One: the pain of seeing his or her own compulsive strivings may drive the person into an even deeper trance to escape from the pain of awareness. Rededicating himself to the goal, he pursues it doggedly, often even with self loathing or self pity. He excuses the ambition and rationalizes it. He seeks approval from his motivator and consoles himself in the company of other ambitious strivers like himself.
Because the motivator does take an interest in the ambitious one, he seems to be the only source of love. And so, the victim falls even more under the spell to avoid the guilt and anxiety that comes with awareness, and to receive the approval and love of the motivator.
The other extreme of, of course, is to give up and drop out. Unable to stand what they are becoming, they drop out or turn to alcohol, marijuana or drugs. They would rather fail than be ambitious. They often hate society, corporations, schools, parents or whoever had pressured them to succeed.
Some people might awaken to see just how heartless and inhuman they have become in the pursuit of the goal. In guilt, they might set a goal of making it up to those they hurt. This new goal now becomes the pressure to function. And under pressure of the new goal, and making it too important, they might actually force themselves on others, pressuring them to accept their apology or pressuring them to accept some payment to make up.
In a similar way, they might set a goal of helping others like themselves. They become a teacher, coach, or other authority with a goal of helping anyone like themselves.
So instead of being a harsh teacher or coach, they become a "nice," easy going, people pleasing teacher or coach. Instead of being a disciplinarian, they become an enabler, a liberator, friend, or nice guy or nice gal.
Unfortunately, the goal of being nice, or to put it another way, the goal of not being like their parent, coach or teacher also makes them goal oriented and fixated.
They might become an advocate for victims or the homeless, but their help does not really help because it is founded in resentment and hatred.
Such a person will actually become threatened and resentful if others don't accept their "niceness" or if others don't see them in a good light. Think of it! The goal seeking nice guy will hate you if you don't like him.
But others can see something fanatical about their good deeds. Others can sense the pressure in the person who aims to please. And so, the rejection the motivators bring on themselves through trying too hard to please or be nice causes anxiety and resentment.
In order to reach the goal of being the world's nicest teacher or whatever, he will do everything he can in order to seduce you and win you over. And if nothing works, he will hate and reject you.
The seductive motivator is now on the inside just like the ones he hated. The only difference is that he or she is now seducing others instead of threatening them.
However, once his or her power is consolidated, you will then experience the liberator, motivator, or nice guy's betrayal and tyranny. Many liberators, such as Fidel Castro, ended up being worse dictators than those they replaced. Within the shell and facade of such liberation and liberalism is tyranny and oppression.
The liberator is just as ambitious as the social climber or capitalist they hate, but now they are ambitious to destroy society, punish those they hate, and force their brand of "good" on everyone. The French revolution, Pol Pot, and the Red Guard in China are examples of this sort of thing.
The truth of the matter is that when the person goes into a hypnotic state, they come under the influence of another. Twenty years later, the hypnotized person continues to carry out the directives of the motivator. And eventually through a slow process of attrition, it is not merely the programming but also the actual spirit of the motivator which acts through the victim.
Evil, you see, is a spirit which never dies. It is undead, like a virus. It infects each new generation with itself. And the ambitious ones come under its spell and it operates through them. Sadly, the victims of the ambitious once also become infected through their hatred. The victim of the bully turns around and bullies those weaker than herself until she takes on the full mantle of the bully.
I recently heard a well known evangelist recount that in his country of origin the suicide rate goes up dramatically on college campuses around exam time. These students are driven by a goal of achievement that was given to them by others, now implanted in them and enforced by psychopathic teachers.
The sad thing is that they could be far more successful and happy if they had been permitted to unfold naturally and flow intuitively. They could have been industrious instead of ambitious, and thus happy instead of conflicted over any success they might achieve. Many college students party and drink in order to escape the guilt for not living their own lives.
If, at this time, you are impatient with your children and are seeking to pressure, bribe, threaten, or motivate them, it is undoubtedly the spirit which was operating through your parents (or driven teachers or coaches) which is now living through you, seeking to destroy your children and to use them as a new vehicle for its plans.
Can you now see the wisdom of the words: “Seek first the Kingdom of God and His right way, and all other things will be added unto you?”
Christ exhorts us to make our Creator and His right way most important--first, last, and always. If you seek to do what you know is right in your heart—making it at all times and in all places and in every moment more important than anything else, then you can know no frustration.
You won't have to decide anymore or face dilemmas. You will have made THE choice—to submit to your Creator's will instead of seeking your own will.
You see, when you seek your own will, seducers and manipulators notice what your desire is, and they rise to the occasion of offering to answer your needs.
When you seek your Creator's will, then you come under His authority. And when you are under His authority, you are no longer under the worldly motivator's authority.
It's a strange thing about time—time should be a benevolent source of a substance we need to accomplish anything. In the material creation, things come to fruition in time. The end intended then comes to pass through cause leading to effect. One precedes the other in sequence. And the awareness of the sequence, one after another, gives the reference points by which we measure time.
If you intended something, and you knew that it would come to pass for sure, and if you knew that it was God's will, then you would have be no anxiety, worry, and be under no pressure, because you would be certain of a happy fulfillment in God's good time.
Even more fun would be if you were certain that the Creator's will would be done, and you knew that you were doing His will for each moment, but you did not know what the outcome would be or when it would be, you could simply live care-free from moment to moment doing what is right and then waiting with joy for the surprise happy outcome.
When the good came to pass, it would be a joyous surprise (like a birthday present), yet all along you knew that something good would happen, you just didn't know what it would be.
It all depends on intent. You might counter, “I have had the right intent, but things didn't work out.” First of all, you must not make a goal of “doing good.” If you do, this goal, leads to putting your will into it, with the usual frustration, time pressure, and resentment. Your will then becomes a pressure to others. The goal (and accompanying preplanning and attempt to cause some effect or make some impression) ruins your timing and robs you of spontaneity.
Jesus often warned the people about doing things to make an impression on others. He also often warned us not to be hypocrites. Do you see the connection? Having a goal of being good or doing good results in doing things for effect and its effect on others.
Your intent must be: to be ready to do what you know is right in your heart for each moment. In other words, as I go through life and approach a situation, I do not know what the good is. I watch and wait. I check with my intuition. Mostly nothing is required for me to do, other than calm observation. Sometimes a word, deed or gesture may be needed. I just act or speak spontaneously, flowing from intuition, and the action is right.
If you over analyze, ambitiously plan in advance, or use some pre digested formula—you will mess it up. The innocence, the sweetness, and the power will be absent. Instead an ego would be laboring for effect.
Life is subtle and involves timing. There are not enough books in the world to detail the perfect action for any delicate moment with your loved ones, for example. You need guidance--just in time guidance—the kind that comes from within, in the moment, when you get your ego out of the way, not knowing what to, but wishing with all your heart to do the right thing. With this attitude, you will suddenly know what to do.
If doing what is right, but not really knowing in advance what the “right” is in any particular situation, is your sincere intent, then you may simply go about your life, living humbly, quietly, not given to prediction, not seeking selfish advantage, and not seeking to make any impression on others. In most moments of your life, nothing is required of you. In this respect, doing right often means not doing wrong. Going the right way means not going the wrong way. Doing the Creator's will means not doing other's will.
Remember, whenever you move under pressure, you are obeying another's will. That's why if you respond to the pressure of another's praise or the pressure of their criticism, then you are moving hypnotically.
When something becomes too important—more important than seeking to quietly realize what is right for that moment—then you have a goal directed consciousness, which will lead to your striving to attain.
Remember Christ's words concerning doing good: He said "let not your right hand know what your left hand is doing."
Can you see what innocence is? It is moving spontaneously without thought of the outcome. Children are naturally innocent. That's why their honest speech and lack of self consciousness are so sweet.
There are also adults who are naturally innocent—often true scientists and inventors who love discovering truth move innocently, such as people like Thomas Edison (who often forgot his umbrella) or Einstein blithely riding his bicycle.
What makes us self conscious is the ego appeal of the gaze directed at us by others who question our motives and seek to confuse us.
They also judge you, and having reacted resentfully to judgment, you now act to be seen favorable by them.
Wrong, impatient, or ambitious people hate innocence, and so they try to draw attention to yourself with praise, criticism, or blame.
They know that once they can make you self conscious—embarrassed, ashamed, angry, and resentful—you will then seek to move to alleviate the feeling.
They also know that if they can make you doubt yourself, you will become confused and unsure, and they can continue to dominate you.
Natural innocence is nice, but you need to go beyond it to find spiritual innocence. The angels are spiritually innocent. And because they are, they immediately acknowledge truth. And because they have no will of their own, other than to do God's will, they only bear goodwill toward their neighbor. They do good unawares, being not self conscious of themselves as an operator. In fact, they even know that when they do good, it is not of themselves.
Can you see how this fundamental realization saves them from pride (which also makes us self conscious in a most unfortunate way, alienating us from the good)?
In order to find innocence, you must give up your goals and striving. Relax and wait patiently for the wind of the spirit to move you.
In innocence, your consciousness will eventually become aware of your own corruption. Careful—don’t resent seeing it. You will become aware of how your body has been trained and conditioned to respond to outside appeals with obedience. The lusts, angers, anxieties, nervousness, hungers, needs and desires are all acquired: based on the suggestions and manipulations of others, and your reacting to them.
You will also eventually become aware of the spiritual corruption within. You will become aware that a will has been operating through you which is not your will. You will become aware that its motives and its thoughts are impure. You will become aware that evil exists within, and that it came from those who tempted and motivated you.
You will become aware that it has had its way with you and through you when you made something too important or when you were resentful. You always thought that its thoughts and its will were your own, and you were guilty and ashamed of them. Now you will see that the corrupt identity misled you and wanted you to think the sordid thoughts were your own, so that you would be too ashamed to come to the light and repent. That way it could continue to operate through you, using you as a vessel for its will.
Do not be alarmed by this discovery. There is a tendency to think that you are discovering something new. Realize that evil was always there—posing as you and masquerading as your conscience. You thought that its thoughts were your thoughts. And you thought that its lusts were your lusts. You were unaware of its presence. Now you are simply becoming aware of its presence—because your soul is less tainted with sin and has become objective.
Do not be alarmed. You are aware of the presence of evil because the Light is making you aware.
Do nothing other than watch. Do not attempt to struggle with it yourself. In time, God will move and make the evil leave you. In the meanwhile, He will hold your soul apart from it so that you can observe it without being stained.
Understand this: the same spirit which you can now sense is impure and has impure motives but which has compelled you to do all the wrong things and even to be cruel to your loved ones is the same spirit which was operating in those who hurt or confused you. It is the spirit that was operating through your mother who berated you or turned you against your father. It was in the father who was not there for you, the person who hurt you, or the long list of motivators who pressured you.
Perhaps you hated your mother, for example. Perhaps she was cruel, confusing or dominating. But now that you see that what compelled you (or what might be yet compelling you to hate or do things backwards) was operating through her, compelling her too. Now, seeing that she could not stop herself because of the thing in her, you will be able to forgive her. Maybe you were not dealing with your real mother. Something had destroyed her, took her over, and compelled her to do the things she did.
Therefore, forgive your poor old mom and dad. Remember Christ's words when he was being crucified: "Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do."
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"Anyone who has the power to make you believe absurdities has the power to make you commit injustices." Voltaire
Christ often exhorted others not do things for public consumption—i.e. to be seen by others.
We often labor for the effect. But remember, the end and the cause are contained in the effect. This, when we focus on an egotistical goal—it is to be able to attain something that we think will make us whole and complete, and we then want to be able to see this effect and revel in it.
That is why Christ said that a person who hates another in his heart has already committed murder. The end result is just the effect. The effect is a result of cause, and the cause is the lustful intention.
Our fantasies are usually of experiencing some effect (the feeling of luxury, wealth, glory, greatness, or revenge) and the pleasure of seeing others worship us, admire us, or be jealous of us.
But remember--the end intended, in other words our secret intention, is basically already the effect willed. If you intend to walk to the other side of the room, unless some diversion or impediment interferes, that intention will be done. This is because the cause (in our example, standing up and walking) is an extension of the end you had in mind, and the effect is an extension of the cause.
The effect is simply the completion of the intention. Therefore, the intention is the most important thing.
This is the meaning of what Christ said: "If a man looks at a woman with lust, he has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
When the intent enters into the will, a compulsion or drive is formed which will remain forever until it has had a chance to complete itself. In the meantime, it will fulfill itself in fantasy or in conversion.
In the state of hypnosis, another's will operates through us, and contained therein is the malevolent or impure intention.
Where does the victim's intent enter in?
At some point during the induction, the victim gives his or her will over to the hypnotist. The hypnotist/motivator always holds out some sort of mystical promise to the inductee. Fame, fortune, a cure, pleasure, excitement, or some secret knowledge to power is promised. All that is asked of the inductee at this point is that he or she relax, pay attention, and give himself over to the hypnotist completely so as to experience the possibilities.
Thus the mindset of the victim is selfish—to give himself or herself up to the hypnotist or the hypnosis producing experience in order to get something out of it. This type of opening oneself up then permits the hypnotist to take over the will.
The hypnotist's intent is impure. He or she wants something selfish too. Usually it is power over another. The sex, the money, the activity itself are secondary to power: the power to excite, to enthrall, to lead, to extract applause, worship, or be admired.
The hypnotist has intent to deceive. He needs to hide some facts about himself and about what is going on in order to impress and to hold the worshipful, aspiring, expectant attention of the victim. He or she has both intent to deceive and an intent to influence. The deception is necessary to make the suggestion palatable to the victim.
Were the truth to be known and the dishonesty exposed, the spell would be broken. So the hypnotist must promise the moon while at the same time hiding any fine print or flaws. He must not reveal the cases where his alleged "cure" or plan did not work. No objection can go unchallenged. In fact, objections are to be avoided, since they might make the person begin to think critically and wake up to reality.
All must go smoothly without hitch, without slip up or mistake. An error must be covered up or said to be planned. The victim must feel comfortable and safe, without fear. He must have complete confidence in the hypnotist.
Whether massage parlor, dentist's office, doctor’s office, or any other place where we put ourselves in the hands of another, the effort is always made to allay fears, overcome objections, reassure, and make the person feel comfortable.
This is the beginning of induction. There is often an air of expectancy or excitement, which the comfortable reassured person feels--excited about the naughty promise suggested by the whole thing.
Let me mention another type of hypnosis which appears to be the opposite of the above but has the same result. A person may be shocked, terrorized, confused and deprived until they completely lose their self confidence and moorings. At this point the hypnotist enters with a confident, reassuring, guiding presence.
Feeling out of control, fearful and terror stricken, the person will gladly give himself or herself over to the confident expert or reassuring presence promising safety or a cure. That is why victims of terrorists come under the control of the terrorists. That is why abused children may become slaves of the abusing parent, because the terrorizing parent plays a good guy/bad guy routine. He or she terrorizes the child but then feels sorry for the child and is suddenly kind and reassuring.
Children who run away from home arrive in another city, afraid, alone, and terror stricken. Some understanding pimp or older person comes along who offers money, a place to stay and security. But he has malevolent intent.
Another example is that of the child who is molested or raped. The molester then further terrorizes the child by threatening to tell the parents about what the child did. Having scared the child about the parents finding out, the cruel molester then promises not to tell if the child cooperates and does what he says.
In one way or another, the game is played countless times. Once terror stricken, the victim learns to go into trance whenever frightened.
Mostly this happens to us as children. Then all through life other people, once they discover how to control us, play the same game with us. The used car salesman will try making your comfortable while he shows you all the promises of freedom and looking good that the car offers.
Caught up in his imagination and dreaming of the glory of owning the shiny, sexy car, the victim becomes more and more comfortable in the presence of the hypnotist salesman. But at some point when the fine print, added costs, and loan fees are brought up, the victim begins to object, ask questions and wake up. The salesman will then try to meet the objections or dismiss them. If this does not work, the salesman may bring in the authoritative sales manager who allays fears and reassures.
If this does not work, then the salesman or manager may begin to talk about credit checks and question the buyer’s earnings and credit history to try to intimidate and control the person. This usually works because most people have some late payment on their credit history.
Another tactic is to make the victim want something and then threaten to withdraw it (saying this car is “the last one available, the sale will be over tomorrow, or suddenly announce that "another customer just called to ask about buying this particular one,” etc).
I guess it's not so bad if a salesperson sells you something you probably could have done without or gotten cheaper; but the same game is played at various levels. And when an evil Svengali, Stalin, or Hitler uses the power of hypnosis, many people are misled and destroyed. So hypnosis is not just a parlor game. It is a real phenomenon that you need to understand it.
Many a child has been bamboozled by a self righteous mother, who could do no wrong and played the poor martyr act. The child grows to be an adult, still worshipping mother who hated her husband and who, with her syrupy ways, turned the child against the husband she hates.
The child becomes dysfunctional, either believing that he or she is bad (compared to saintly mom) and then acting out the bad behavior, or else becomes forever tied to her and her approval.
The dysfunctional adult children of such a parent will remain a victim forever unless they wake up to see how their minds were messed with and also forgive their parents by dropping resentment. Some victims know very well that their mind was messed with, but they remain confused, angry victims because of their hatred and anger which they won't let go of.
Remember, there is always deceit involved. Manipulative people want something from you. The salesman, masseuse, or expert wants your money. The manipulative parents want your worship or compliance. The guilty person wants you to play God and forgive their sins, which only God can do. The people pleaser wants your approval. Even so-called friends, who are not really true friends, want something—approval or support. They want to be seen in a good light.
They will pretend not to see your wrong as long as you pretend not to see theirs. Should you suddenly begin to see what they are up or even point out their error, they will immediately pull the rug out from under you by withdrawing approval from you to manipulate you back into line.
In order to get what they want, they need to have power over you—hypnotic power to control you and direct you to do what they want. A rabble rouser or "reformer" will use hypnotic power to get elected, but will then have the real power of government to tyrannize and subjugate when his true nature becomes evident. The politician will make false promises to give the people what they want, but when he gains his office he then has real power not to do good but to plunder and spread injustice.
Of course a good man, who has the power to awaken the people from the hypnotic spell, will then lead an awakened populace with justice and doing good. Such a man, a Jesus or Moses type, is rare. Such a person is the greatest threat to the power hungry elite because he awakens people and takes away the hypnotic power they have.
In the relationship between the deceiver and the deceived, the victim is not completely honest either. If the victims were only intent on doing what is wise and desirous of knowing the truth, then they would see through the deceit. They would also speak up and expose it.
The exception is, of course, innocent children who are naturally authority oriented. They tend to be trusting because of their naivety. Their involvement with some wrong authority is not their fault. Children are to be protected from improper pressuring or seducing authorities, not blamed.
But what often makes the child feel guilty is that he or she may have enjoyed the special attention being lavished by the manipulator. The child liked the special relationship. For example, many kids, whose mom resents their dad, have to turn against their dad or agree with her mother’s negative words and feelings toward him.
If they don’t agree with her, they risk her wrath and even rejection. Of course it can be the other way around too—where the child has to agree with dad or conform to his opinions—or else risk his wrath. But the more typical situation is having to conform to mom because she knows how to look like a martyr or victim, where men often look bad because they are no match for her confusion. Such men become angry and look bad or throw in the towel and walk away. Besides, kids are naturally closer to mom and it is easy for her to manipulate their feelings.
Of course, some men are bad, but there are also many men who are driven to becoming angry by their wife’s relentless nitpicking, nagging, confusion and irritations. He starts off trying to be reasonable, but is tempted to become angry, and then he looks bad.
The point I am trying to make here is that a child becomes the victim of the resentments and undercurrents of anger between the parents. The child is often forced to choose one or the other, and usually has to go along with the dominant parent. (Bear in mind that I am just using the parent as a typical example; tyrants come in many other guises: grandparent, aunt, sister, older brother, teacher, coach, church or political leader).
Having to “go along to get along” is guilt producing already, since it conflicts with conscience and freedom; but the guilt is often amplified when the child accepts favors or perks from the dominant one.
You cannot blame the child. Children are just children. They are supposed to be protected from these situations. Nor can you blame the child for conforming for peace, since they naturally want to please mom, and every child wants the approval of his or her parent.
What sets the child up for this trap is a weak father, who is resented by his wife, and who sits silently by while she bosses the kids around or plays mind games.
Instead of firmly but patiently correcting her manipulations, he grows angry, suppresses his anger and then sits silently by. He is afraid of getting upset, and he is afraid of incurring her wrath. He does not want to lose his perks and the cozy selfish lifestyle he has. He is selfish, and lets her ruin the kids because he wants peace.
The other problem is a lack of rapport or closeness to a good father. A good father provides protection through his noble presence and through the child's respect for him and response to his good authority, rather than the manipulating authority of others. The son or daughter who feels loved by the father has no need for the attention of some manipulator.
So now as the adult child who came from some unhealthy home environment or the victim of some tyrant, you must now see that it was not your fault.
You were only a child. The sins of your parents are not your fault. Do not be harsh on yourself for having accepted favors from some tyrannical person. You were love starved and unprotected. You could not help the environment you were in.
Plus, as a child you wanted to make others happy and you did not want to be rejected. Therefore forgive yourself. Just see that whatever happened, you were a victim.
Your real guilt is for resenting your parents (or others) and resenting yourself. Realize that they too were victims, and drop your resentments.
Just see the truth about what happened. Now that you are an adult, and especially if you use my meditation, you will see clearly in the light of truth some variation of the situation as I have described. Forgive others, and then just leave it all behind. If you let go of your resentments, you will be free to move forward and live a productive life. By having forgiven, you will also be free to be a good parent.
Also understand that mostly what happens to us as children is due to the failing of father. Chances are that he failed your mom, and she felt unloved and become resentful. If he was not violent or an alcoholic, then chances are he was weak. He let your mom rule and have her way with you. He may have tried to protect you but he was over matched by your mom. He became defeated and said nothing. He stood silently by or else he became angry, looked bad, and may have gone off to the bottle or another woman. Some men become married to their work, sports, even naughty images—feeling more comfortable with these substitutes for the support of their female boss wife.
Most dads are decent, just wrong through their weakness. Of course, violent, drunken and abusive dads are very wrong. But someone made him that way. Once he too was an innocent little boy with a tear in his eye.
Therefore forgive him. Let go of your resentments toward those who failed you, beginning with your father. Then move forward.
If the source of confusion in the home is the wife and mother, the one to blame is the husband and dad. If he had a rapport with his Creator within, he would have been wise enough to deal properly with your unloved mother, and he would have protected you from the confusion, madness, and horrors that come to pass when dad is not there for the family.
Even though he is to blame, that does not license you to resent and judge him. Remember, it is resentment that seeds wrong in people. If you do not want to become just like him or married to someone just like him—then forgive by letting go of your grudges and resentments toward your earthly father.
It is a true principle that if you do not forgive your earthly father, your Heavenly Father will not forgive you. Therefore, forgive your earthly father.
The child who has a rapport with the good father does not need the security or love of the peer group and will not fall for the attention and false love of some manipulator. As I said, what sets the child up for this trap is usually a lack of rapport or closeness to the father. To repeat--a good father provides protection, through the child's respect for him and through responding to his authority rather than others. The son or daughter who feels loved by the father has no need for the attention of the manipulators.
Manipulator takes advantage of the absence of father, as well as the victim's natural ego needs and desires.
Later in life, the teen or adult child looks for something they need, something missing from their lives because of their response to the cruel and confusing environment they were raised in.
The manipulator spots the interest or neediness and takes advantage by promising the means of satisfying it.
Understand that the good life would unfold naturally from within, were you not separated from your own ground of good. We become separated through confusion and resentment.
It the role of parents, especially father, to protect the innocence of the child from corruption so that the child can unfold naturally from within. Courage, creative genius, common sense, discipline, and virtue come from within, leading to natural success and a co-creative life. But when other people mess with our minds, upset us and make us angry, gain control through our negative emotions and then manipulate us with seduction or terror, we become altered as we conform to wrong influences.
We then feel empty. Separated from our native intelligence, from our source of creativity and from our true selfhood, and separated from love, we look to the outside world for love, security, power (to compensate for our feeling of powerlessness), and knowledge.
For example, the average human being has an inherited compulsion to believe that the way to happiness and fulfillment is through knowledge. Taking advantage of this misbelief, the educators make many promises about benefits associated with school, study, good grades, college, titles, etc. Education is big business.
Falling for the line and wanting the promised benefits for their child, the parents put the child under the control of the educators and administrators who direct his behavior. The child is vulnerable because of his gullibility and because of his or her weak father. Father is himself busy gobbling up the goodies of the system, or hating it, and has no ground upon which to stand to with a viable alternative.
Let me say for the record that I am not opposed to education. But it must also be an education that flows from realization, discovery and understanding—not stuffing the mind with useless fact, figures and formulas. Knowledge must be an extension of intuition. Knowledge that is useful and timely flows from intuition. Knowledge without understanding is dead.
Others look for power and knowledge through the occult or foolishly seek knowledge from psychics. The person becomes corrupted and then may seek to be a psychic himself.
Others seek power through violence, through seductive powers or manipulation. It is all a substitute for the true love, knowledge and selfhood they lost, and which they may yet regain if they begin to wake up from their trance and see what is being done to them.
The child who has been separated from his or her ground of good and love, through the lack of her father being there for her, and through her resentments and judgments, will feel unloved.
She will go out into the world looking for love, and she will find weak men like her father, and she will encounter abuse through other systems of false love.
Soon the victims of a scam join in a conspiracy with the manipulator to hide any facts which might tend to counter the lie. The victims want something in exchange for all they gave up, and they don't want the system to collapse (at least not until they get what they want). They also don't want to see their folly and be exposed, so they join in with the manipulators in a conspiracy of silence.
Bear in mind that hypnotists come in many guises. Anyone who wants something from you, who wills you to do something, or who wants you to see them in a certain light is a potential hypnotist. They may or may not know what they are doing. Some are wicked and know very well what they are up to. Others don’t fully understand what they are doing, but they see the effect they have on you and they like the power.
Others don’t even realize the effect they are having.
Professionals take advantage of the white coat syndrome; a wife can control her man and have her will done through her food or sex; a politician through his promises; and an attractive woman through her inherited hypnotic power over men.
Cosmetic companies, used car salesmen, politicians, educators, the clergy, and even a willful or beguiling typical mom make use of hypnosis. Mostly they don’t fully understand what they are doing, but just know that somehow it works to their advantage.
Cosmetic companies take advantage of a desire for beauty and offer to fulfill your desire through their products. Car salesmen take advantage of the suggestions of power, freedom, prestige, or sexiness that owning a car connotes. Women take advantage of men’s inherent desire to have his animal maleness validated and approved of by a woman, and a woman also takes advantage of a man’s already existing susceptibility due to the effect that his mother had on him. She inherits a bit of guile, and then a transfer of hypnotic power through hypnotic transference from her man’s mother.
Motivators rule over us by taking advantage of our natural gullibility and our selfish desire for gain.
Most authorities do not have real power. They simply use, by transference, power someone else long ago had, and transferred it down the line.
Mostly, those who aspire to power (often tempted to this desire by having been made to feel powerless by some tyrant) keenly observe those they want to imitate who have power and authority, and then just dress, act, talk, and move in a way that imitates those they wish to emulate. If they are clever and convincing enough, they will fool the authority-prone who fall under their sway (or who accept their title or position without question).
Transference is an interesting and well documented phenomenon, and you need to know about it because it is involved in all your mistakes, errors in judgment, and the tragedies of your life.
Here is an example. A professional hypnotist hypnotized some people and told them that he was a famous professional baseball player. He also planted the post hypnotic suggestion that when someone came into the room with a blue baseball cap on, that person was his team’s manager.
While in the trance, they indeed saw him as a professional baseball player and some of them even asked for his autograph. He then brought them out of the trance.
He left the room, and a few minutes later, a person with blue baseball cap came into the room and the subjects believed that that person was the baseball manager.
So if a person acts, talks, walks, and dresses in a way that people expect some sort of authority to act, talk, walk or dress – through hypnotic suggestion, a vast majority of people will simply do what he or she says. And they will believe even more easily if that person holds out the promise of what their ego wants – such as approval, power, pain relief, guilt relief, or a cure for their ills.
Another thing--people are inherently susceptible to the process of hypnosis. I read a book on hypnosis by a well respected clinical hypnotist. He was confident of his induction techniques, and proved their efficacy by teaching them to some typical college students. These students were then able to easily hypnotize other college students with all the typical effects. In other words, the hypnotists did not need to be professional hypnotists, just able to perform the simple techniques.
So now perhaps you can see what we are all up against. Inherently susceptible, desirous of gain, unaware of the process, and born subject to authorities who lord it over us with hypnotic power they got through transference, the whole human race is under a spell, a trance.
A well known motivational speaker gave away the secret when he said “you can get anything you want if you help others get what they want.” Promise people a cure, power, a good time, or wealth, and then act or dress like you know what you are talking about, and people will follow you to hell and back.
After being taken in, the victim remains tied to the scam because the victim wants to make good his losses (the principle that the casinos operate on) or remains tied into the manipulator through resentment.
Many victims are not at all unhappy to have been taken. Why? Because they learned the technique to take advantage of others. A person who is a victim of a multi level marketing scheme won’t mind a bit if he or she can do the same to someone else and get rich on it.
Perhaps now you can surmise that it is hypnosis which is the curse of sin that the Bible refers to. We are all under a curse whereby we are both susceptible to hypnosis and subject to those who preceded us in the hierarchy of hell on earth. Perhaps you have wondered why “good” people do bad things. In large part, it is because they are under a spell. Someone hypnotized them and they have fallen under wrong influences.
Perhaps you can also see why seemingly nice people around the world are subject to the worst dictators. The reason is that they are authority prone, and they respond to the authorities to whom they are born subject. Then add the fact that people respond hypnotically to whoever promises them what they want. A seducing authority can promise power, prestige, sex, money, a cure or whatever; and many will line up and follow.
A cruel dictator can promise a better apartment, a better job, or promise not to throw someone into political prison if they tow the line.
Their power is first hypnotic, but then becomes real power which we give to them. Before World War II, if people had seen Hitler for what he was—a madman—and simply refused to follow, millions of people would not have been killed in the horrors of war.
But he promised people law and order and a return to national pride, and they bought the lie and gave him power. Once he had real authority and power, it was too late. It took a world war and millions of casualties to get rid of him.
Someone once put it this way: “If you do not say no on your feet, you will eventually say yes on your knees.” Winston Churchill said: If you do not fight for the right when you still have a chance of winning, you will eventually have to fight when you have no chance.
Since we are all susceptible to hypnosis, worldly authorities use the principles of hypnosis to rule over us and keep us in line or chasing after the carrot dangling on the end of a stick. It behooves us to both understand the principles of hypnosis, and more importantly begin to wake up from our trance, so that we can regain control of our minds.
Here is a quote from the Russian freedom fighter Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn about this sort of thing. Read and reread this passage and your eyes will be opened to see how he is talking about hypnosis, the power of folly, and how it is the principle by which millions of people are enslaved and enslave each other.
Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn wrote in The Gulag Archipelago that:
"To do evil a human being must first of all believe that what he's doing is good, or else that it's a well-considered act in conformity with natural law. Fortunately, it is in the nature of the human being to seek justification for his actions.
Macbeth's self-justifications were feeble - and his conscience devoured him. Yes, even Iago was a little lamb too. The imagination and the spiritual strength of Shakespeare's evildoers stopped short at a dozen corpses. Because they had no ideology.
Ideology - that is what gives evildoing its long-sought justification and gives the evildoer the necessary steadfastness and determination. That is the social theory which helps to make his acts seem good instead of bad in his own and other's eyes, so that he won't hear reproaches and curses but will receive praise and honors..."
We must speak up for ourselves, peppering the air with truth, so that people will wake up and see the lie for what it is. Exposed, the lie will retreat. Who was it who said: “Evil triumphs when good men to nothing.”
If a hypnotized person is left alone, he or she will begin to wake up naturally from the trance. Unfortunately, he or she may still be subject to post hypnotic suggestions. Secondly, although a person will naturally wake up from an induced trance, other people who look, act or talk like the original hypnotist will be recognized by the subconscious mind as an authority, and the person will go back into a trance.
The third problem is that the more we are hypnotized, the more susceptible to the process we become. Most people spend almost all of their waking life in some level of trance. Even a television screen or a mobile device message puts many people into a mild trance. Just watch the effect that a television has on people when it is turned on.
Remember, it is very important to know whether you are in a trance or not. Otherwise you will not know whether your actions are wise and self motivated or whether they are the result of past or present influences.
The trance state is often undetectable. You cannot tell whether another person or even yourself is awake or in a trance. Yet it is only when you are fully awake that you can begin to become self motivated.
In fact, it is not enough to be just awake, you must also become aware. When you are awake you are no longer in a trance, but when you become aware, you become subject to inner reason and intuition, in fact subject to God.
And when you are aware, you inherit the power to detect folly, lies, error, and deceit. When you are both awake and aware, you will be able to discern whether your actions are wise or not.
The hypnotized person is subject to wrong authorities, and ultimately to the devil. The aware person is subject to God.
There are two types of leaders. The first is the good type – the aware Moses and Jesus types, who are awake and aware themselves, and who awaken the people from their trances, free them from hypnotic bondage, and then lead the people to freedom. These types are rare.
The other types of leaders are the hypnotic leaders who keep the people asleep and in bondage. These are the types you see everywhere.
It is imperative that we, the people, wake up, so that we can choose the good aware type leader (pray God that one arises), otherwise we will remain in bondage.
1. In your own personal life, you must wake up, meditate for awareness, and then begin to observe just who is currently pulling your strings and leading you around by the nose.
2. When you begin to see what they are up to, careful--don’t resent them. Resentment is itself hypnotic, plus you might doubt yourself because of the guilt for resenting them.
3. Learn to be aware at all times. Meditate for objectivity. When you find yourself getting pulled into a piece of music or an argument—stand back for mental distance.
4. Learn to go through life on an even emotional keel. Emotion is hypnotic. Don’t get overly excited when good things happen, and don’t get bummed out when things don’t go your way.
5. Watch out for doubt. A skilled motivator can tempt you to doubt yourself, in which case you fall into a trance. Also watch out for emotion. You can be tripped up by emotion, and then led into doubt through that emotion.
Worldly authorities are very arrogant and confident, and can be unnerving because they seem immune to truth. Just remember that their confidence is based on everyone doubting themselves and giving them power.
6. Watch out for resentment. Resentment is the ego response to pressure that results in intimidation, self doubt, and pulls the rug out from under you. Your first line defense is to observe and remain patient (not resentful), secondly hold fast to what you observe to be true (in other words, don’t doubt yourself).
People around you who know how to push your buttons (for example, your wife, mom, or someone who always succeeds in getting you to do what they want) rely on your becoming resentful. They know it will make you guilty and then you will cop out through guilt.
7. Learn to scan for clues instead of concentrating. Concentration leads to hypnosis, whereas de-fixating leads back to awakeness. Don’t struggle to learn or remember. Don’t study with effort and will. Instead listen, read, or observe lightly. Don’t try to learn or try to remember. If you have to take a test in school, for example, just do what you can without struggle or strain. Go through the motions if you have to. Let them be the ones to become upset if you can’t perform up to their expectations.
8. Don’t rush ambitiously. Quietly go about your business without being ambitious. It is okay to be industrious. Acquire things naturally, as a result of commonsense, diligence, work, and wise decisions—then you can enjoy what you got without acquiring guilt.
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There are two types of expectation. One of which will be covered here. I will not discuss the natural types of expectation, like waiting for the other shoe to drop, waiting for a balloon to burst, or being ready to laugh when the comedian starts telling a joke. When we know we are going to sneeze we wait expectantly for the sneeze to happen. These are simple and natural forms of expectation.
What I wish to discuss is what happens to natural expectation when your will is involved—where you want something to happen or don’t want it to happen.
When you want something to happen or when you don’t want something to happen, then expectation can become impatience, nervousness, greed, dread, or through resentment, fear or a sense of futility, even despair. This type of expectation, with will and ego involved, has a nasty way of leading a person to push the envelope and make wrong choices. The result is sadly all too often violence, despair, and thoughts of suicide.
As an aside, I personally believe that the reason for the increase in terrible school shootings, suicides, and murder suicides is because antidepressants and antipsychotic medications cause hyper stimulation--a biochemically based, due to the stimulant action of the meds, state of hyper stimulation without respite which manifests as mania, anxiety and akathisia.
It is a biochemically induced state of morbid and hyper stimulation, unrelenting neural arousal, anxiety, and thoughts of suicide to end it all or the tragic combination of murder-suicide. Even more ominously, this unrelenting state of excitation is also hypnotic by nature, rendering the victim vulnerable to suggestions.
The French call sex the petite mort (little death) because it is an adumbration of the excitement/tension/climax/release/sleep cycle. We can also call the violence/suicide side effects of psychiatric meds the petite mort of the arousal, stimulation/anxiety cycle.
In effect, the meds cause an internal biochemical state which mimics and biochemically recreates the very worst of manic goal seeking behavior and its sequelae.
Expectation becomes negative—impatience or disappointment--when we want something too much or when we fear and resent something happening. If you did not desire something, then you would not wait expectantly for it.
And, of course, if it does not happen, then you are disappointed—which also proves that you wanted it, otherwise you would not know disappointment.
Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying that we should not want things. Just take the ambition (wanting it too much) and the resentment out of it. In other words, take your ego over-eagerness and impatience out of it.
If you are in the market for a car to replace what you have, and you see a car that might be what you need--that’s fine. There is nothing wrong with buying a car if you need one.
Just wait until the feelings subside – then you will be able to tell whether it is a wise choice or not. That way you won’t spend too much. It might even go on sale. How many times have you spent hard earned money on some impulse purchase, only to see it at a garage sale for a fraction of what you paid? When the feeling subsides, then you can see clearly if the choice is wise and prudent. If so, you can go ahead and purchase the car. But if the purchase is feeling based or to support your ego, then you won't be happy for long with the purchase. It will disappoint you or make you resentful.
Kids are basically just little egos, and so they will want things or not want things. Sure, it is fun to wait for Santa Claus to come and to open the presents on Christmas. Sure, kids anticipate and can’t wait for summer to arrive so we can get out of school. When we were kids and did something wrong, we dreaded dad coming home and mom telling him. We dreaded going to the dentist and couldn't wait until Saturday to go to the lake.
This is all natural, part of life and part of growing up.
But some of us have a problem with expectation and anticipation. It is normal to have a sense of anticipation when, for example, we have to give a speech or when we are about to take an important exam. But when our ego gets too much involved, then we can become downright nervous, upset, sick, or paranoid about the worst happening.
The ego tends to live in the imagination. When we are there too much, we begin to make mountains out of mole hills and worry excessively about things.
That is why it is good to not make anything too important. It is also good to not dwell excessively in the imagination. Life has its ups and downs. But when our ego becomes overly concerned about self preservation, we can become hypochondriacal. We start to worry all the time, dwelling in the cellar of our imagination and anticipating the worst.
Who was it who said “most of the things we worry about never happen anyway.” But you can’t tell that to a chronic worrier, because he or she is not in a rational state of mind to receive it. And even if she did—her reason tells her one thing, but her emotions tell her the opposite. The ego takes everything personally and tries to control everything.
Excessive heart pounding anticipation (unless it’s your first parachute jump) is a sure sign of excessive ego involvement. It also shows that you have been traumatized and conditioned to over-react, probably beginning when you were a child.
That is why it good for parents not to overprotect their kids from life’s little scraped knees and set backs. Kids need a foundation of having known some success, but we also need to have failed a little so that we can grow up and learn to accept the good and the bad with equanimity.
We do not desire everything we expect or anticipate to happen. Some things we don’t want (some things we dread).
Holding something in our thought can even lead toward consciously or subconsciously taking steps to make it happen.
For example, if you intend something (or intend to have something), the next step is for it to enter it into the will. When in the will, you then desire it. Desire becomes the cause. The effect is the result.
That is why it is dangerous to dwell on the negative and why we must never take counsel of our fears. There is a due process that leads from thought through emotion to action and result. In simple terms, dwelling on something can draw us into its happening if the subconscious takes hold of what we are worrying about.
Of course, our puny will cannot make things happen, but through negative emotions we can end up doing the very thing we fear or hate. We can draw, unconsciously, the very circumstances we fear.
Sensing this at some level, we feel anxious and this can be led into a negative fear based cycle of thinking, or we can be led into ineffectual or superstitious acts to make what we fear not happen.
Our hypnotized state is why we are suggestible, and since most of our thoughts are negative, we try to counter them with positive suggestions or use what our culture’s superstitions allege will prevent bad things from happening.
One person might go college hoping not to be a failure (which is what was drummed into her at home and school), another will try giving himself positive suggestions (but still fear becoming a failure), and another will carry a lucky rabbit’s foot or turn a prayer wheel. Yet another person will be hyper vigilant and careful about everything, becoming so bogged down in watching out for one thing that he falls into another.
A negative state can be compounded and complicated by the guilt for wanting and willing things. Our faithless egotistical struggle and willfulness are sure to make us anxious and guilty. We then tend to look for the wrong cause of our guilt.
But the real reason for the guilt is that we humans were meant to live by faith not by willfulness. We cannot really make things happen, but we keep trying to make what we want happen, and that puts us in conflict with the way of faith.
People have a way of trapping you into being willful even though you don’t want to be. My wife, for example, will make some declaration, often negative, as if it were axiomatic. I point out that we don’t know for sure, but she argues emotionally for her statement. If I am not careful, I can get trapped into emotionally espousing the opposing point of view. Then tiring of the argument, I can fall into the trap of throwing in the towel and “letting her be right.” It is a cat and mouse game to avoid the extremes. Mostly I must make my point, but not get caught up in the argument.
If you have been denied or frustrated in your life, you may come to expect and anticipate whatever you want not to happen. This expectation can result from bad experiences where you clashed wills with someone else. If your mother, big sister or dad was cruel, they may have made you want something and then withheld it from you. Or they may have noted what you wanted and then deliberately frustrated you.
It can get confusing because people might tempt you to struggle toward something that is indeed a worthy goal for you. But because they tempted you to be willful, you might think that the goal itself is wrong because of the guilt you feel.
Just learn to stand back and watch your feelings. If you can meditate to become objective, you will be able to sort out which are proper aims from those that are not. If it is proper, then just let go of the willfulness or resentment, and you can still pursue it (industriously, but not ambitiously) without guilt or conflict.
It is okay to want a decent car, a home, a good job, and the like. God does not require us to be impoverished and go wanting for such things. Just note any resentment or willfulness (undoubtedly the result of some hypnotist in your past, tempting you to be ambitious or planting suggestions in your mind). If the goal is okay, then just let go of the resentment or willfulness, and you will be able to pursue it without guilt.
On the other hand, you may note after standing back mentally and observing it that it’s not really something that is suitable for you. You are pursuing it because someone else gave you this goal or perhaps out of a misguided sense of obligation. In this case, you can simply see that it is not something you want to do anymore and let it go.
As soon as we begin to want things too much, frustration is guaranteed because we simply cannot have everything we want.
Some kids wish for something like a happy home. Obviously they don't have one; otherwise they wouldn't have to wish for it. And when their parents continue to fight or eventually get divorced, the child now knows frustration and disappointment.
When frustrated in big things, the child may seek to get its will in little things. The child might try, for example, to make a toy bend to its will. Since other things do not bend easily to our will and our puny will cannot make things happen, frustration is guaranteed. A frustrated will leads to rage.
Other people have wills of their own and even animals have a sort of will. When we are willful, we tempt others to be willful and oppose us.
A typical example of this is the willful parent. Her willfulness soon draws an opposing will up in the children. It's then hard to say which side wins in the inevitable confrontations. Both experience frustration and rage.
The one who must submit experiences rage or suppressed resentment. The winner feels guilt and blames the loser. The loser resents the intimidating winner and the winner hates the loser whose cowardice is making him into a bully. It’s a no win way of relating – yet it is all too common.
Christ came to show us a far superior way of relating—one that avoids the extremes of conformity to another's willfulness or rebellion against it. It involves a transfer of allegiance to God and His will—a transfer based not on desire for gain or fear, but one of free will.
People who have known a lot of frustration because they were willful or were tricked into being willful may come to expect the worst. By expecting the worst, they think they can at least be sure of something—that things won't work out right.
Please note that this attitude of expecting the worst (and perhaps suppressing any desire for anything out of fear of being frustrated)—which we can also take a perverse pride in--is born of willfulness.
When your will is activated, often by someone else's willfulness which opposes what you want, you get locked into whatever it is you are struggling with.
For example, perhaps your mother was willful--taking things from you, denying you privileges, forcing you to eat, or making you obey. As a child you had little choice but to eventually become willful yourself. Not because you wanted to.
The pressure of willfulness forces people to either submit, rebel or withdraw. Unwilling submission is an affront to our personhood. We were not meant to be mindless slaves or robots. Therefore, the natural tendency is to dig our feet into the sand and find a way to willfully oppose so as to maintain our freedom. This negative willfulness is evidenced by resentment.
The problem is that the exertion of will locks us into the person or associated objects.
The exertion of will has several effects: it narrows the attention, it makes us single minded, and it basically galvanizes the whole mind and body in pursuit of the one thing wanted.
You see the problem don't you? One person's willfulness tempts the other into an opposing willfulness. The two people end up with locked horns; frustration and resentment are guaranteed.
A child who is the victim of a willful parent can get locked into a struggle to just try to maintain his or her selfhood. An aura of resentment combined with a desperate struggle to maintain selfhood can lead to self protective withdrawal, inhibition, even catatonia or schizophrenia.
A child who has a willful mother who puts her will into her food can develop food problems, such as anorexia or bulimia. The other factor is that her father is not there for her. Self image and guilt over resentment are involved too. But the initiating cause is the weak or absent father and the willful mother. Food becomes the arena of struggle with mother’s indomitable spirit.
Remember--our puny will cannot make things happen. Maybe a psychic can eventually exert enough will to make a pencil move an inch on a table. But when we become willful, all we can do is experience frustration or tempt, seduce, or pressure others into becoming our will-less slaves.
The will-less one has learned that opposing the other brings frustration and usually cruelty and rage on the part of the dominant one. The will-less one learns to submit and go along for peace or for reward. The will-less one learns to submit to any dominant person so as to avoid the experience of frustration, rage and the ensuing guilt.
The will-less one, however, is not exactly will-less, because their submission is actually a ploy. Their will is to keep their ego intact and to survive. By not opposing and losing, they maintain their selfhood. Their will is to survive and gain some advantage through submission. The psychotic who submits weakly to tyrants often becomes a tyrant to those smaller or less skillful.
And never forget—the psychotic usually studies and learns from the dominant one how to become a psychopathic master himself or herself.
Psychotics submit to any dominant person or any pressure. They even learn to submit to any circumstance. They submit so as not to experience frustration or upset. But there is rage underneath.
Usually the first stage of the encounter with some dominant or opposing force brings the suppressed rage to the surface. The psychotic feels anxiety at the intrusion of rage into consciousness (along with perhaps a murderous hate). An immediate act of suppression occurs in order to repress the drive and feelings the psychotic cannot deal with or admit.
The interesting thing about psychotics is that although they submit weakly to pressure, they don’t submit to the good pressure of conscience or Truth. If psychotics encounter the truth, they will fight it; and when they can’t defeat it, they then submit. But it is not a sincere submission; it is only out of resignation--reluctantly conceding to that which they can’t defeat.
It may also be to placate truth and have the pretense of going along, but without a true giving in of the heart. When the psychotic gives in, even to truth, it is done pretentiously to preserve their pride. The psychotic might even then become the biggest proselytizer, selling and evangelizing, the very thing they hate but could not defeat. Who was it who said "if you can’t beat them, join them?"
It is in this way that Christianity is often delivered with a bad spirit—a pressuring spirit or a pretentious, hypocritical one. An unfortunately large percentage of evangelists and Bible scholars are big egos, now forcing on others what they themselves resented and capitulated to.
Believe it or not, when a person resents the truth, their resentment can cause them to have such unbearable conflict that they give in, not out of love, but for relief.
Many a person has been converted by the unbearable pressure put on them (which they resented), until they were forced to give in. It is complicated by a deep guilt—guilt for capitulating, guilt for dishonesty, and most of all: guilt for resenting.
Many of these Christian psychotics remain trapped for life. Whenever they think of questioning what they capitulated to, they experience guilt. They misinterpret the guilt as being for the questioning of their “faith.” They immediately go back into their trance and dig even deeper into the traditions, study and ritual. But the truth is the guilt is before conscience, for having resentfully capitulated and for living a lie.
All they would have to do to be free (and free to find true Christianity) is let go of their resentment toward those who pressured them, admit they have been living a lie, and admit their honest doubts. Then they could stand back and look at things objectively. Free of false loyalties and lies, they would be free to ever so delicately search out the way and find the truth.
It is for this reason that many so called Christians are hypocrites, saying one thing but doing another. Now you know why. Odds are, they were put under unbearable pressure by someone (often parents), and they gave in, but don’t really believe or even really agree with what they have given into. It’s capitulation, often resentful, or it’s concession to preserve pride or for perks and to buy peace.
Some of these psychotics, in fact many of them, go on to become overbearing pressure mongers themselves. Some become big name evangelists or preachers, theologians, or authors. Some are letter of the law types.
Others mix error and very subtly wrong ideas in with the truth in order to confuse others. Remember, they began by hating what they now espouse. Some are evils, secretly hating Christianity, Jesus and God. Much confusion is sewn by these evils, who give Christianity a bad name, drive many away, and mislead others.
But the true children of God have nothing to fear. Though they may get temporarily caught up with one of these wolves in sheep’s clothing, they will eventually see through the charade and back off.
You may have members of your own family who are never, for example, truly sorry when they are caught doing something sneaky, naughty or wrong. If you catch them in some impropriety, they deny the truth or make excuses. When they can no longer duck the plain truth, they act sorry, perhaps putting on a big show with tears and mea culpas.
But guess what? They are not truly sorry. Their concession is not sincere. It is pretense. So watch out for resentment when you (as dad, for example) discover that your correction did not really take. They behave nicely in your presence, but sooner or later they do something that gives away that they have not really changed. The psychotics are difficult to deal with, because they only put on a show of regret for getting caught, not because they are truly sorry. So watch out for resentment.
Resentment makes you feel wrong, and you might even think that you were wrong for correcting them. Chances are you were correct about what you saw and pointed out, but are now wavering because of the resentment.
Let's say you quite properly pointed something out that should have been pointed out. It is your anger or resentment that makes you feel wrong. Keep patiently, kindly and firmly saying what needs to be said--just take the resentment out of it, and you won’t feel guilty.
Just keep pointing things out without anger. Undoubtedly you have a lot of suppressed anger from not speaking up in the past. Now, if you speak up and anger comes out, then just say "I'm sorry about the anger, but I'm still right about what I said." That's all.
Watch out for the trap where they tempt you to nag them, so they can use you as a pressure source to whom they psychotically conform or use you as a hate object when you are tempted into nagging them. Just calmly point things out. Understand that your correction may never take. But you can’t give up on people either, especially your loved ones. Do what you can, and don’t resent them. Don’t become a pressure source yourself.
Remember you cannot know the heart of a person. Most members of your family will respond positively to a true change in you. Mostly, they have been suffering due to your wrong, and they were tempted to react to your wrong or your hypocrisy. If your change is sincere, some will respond positively, but for others, it may be a long time before they trust you. Some may never forgive you; others only after years or decades.
Just keep doing what is right, being patient, kind, and longsuffering. Besides, your goal should not be to change others or to see some response. Your goal should be to do what you know is right in your heart regardless of the apparent results. Should you expect some outcome and secretly judge them or start to pressure them, you would again be wrong and a temptation. Get your ego out of it.
Let’s continue with the discussion of how the psychotic gives in to the pressure of any dominant personality. To recapitulate: usually the first stage of the encounter with some dominant or opposing force brings the suppressed rage to the surface. The psychotic feels anxiety at the intrusion of rage into consciousness. An immediate act of suppression occurs in order to repress the feelings the psychotic cannot deal with or admit.
Now the psychotic goes into stage two—the hypnotic state—where all inner opposition to the external authority is waived. In the trance state, anxiety departs as the person comes under the anxiety-relieving direction of the dominant authority. However, the person has to pay for the security of the trance with obedience to the will of the dominant one or to what the scene post hypnotically seems to suggest.
With the critical faculty on hold and with consciousness awareness of anxiety abated, the person feels better. It’s the same principle which is involved when a person is hypnotized to not feel the pain of a dental procedure.
If you understand the principle involved, you can also see how our worldly hypnotists tempt us and license us to do wrong or foolish things while taking away the symptoms of our folly.
They suggest away our symptoms (or medicate them), or they misdirect us to the wrong cause (often some innocent person) for our troubles. Under their domination we feel secure, and we continue to enjoy the security of having someone else decide for us, as we also remain transfixed by the goals they set for us and the false promises they give us.
We also make use of our hypnotists, their analgesic reassurances and their symptom removing treatments to help us remain unaware of things we have suppressed that we don’t want to see (like suppressed anger, rage or inappropriate sexual feelings).
When there is not a dominant hypnotist around, we use our work, alcohol, marijuana, drugs, music, entertainment, ritual, or imagination to keep us feeling secure, with conscious awareness at bay about our errors, wrong way of living, and angers and frustrations caused by our misdirected lifestyle.
Our hypnotic states result in our being dominated by the outside. In other words, to escape from being aware of the rage coming from the id, the psychotic goes into a state of external domination. Instead of being dominated by the id-entity on the inside, he is dominated by the outside.
The first stage of a fugue or traumatic neurosis is when a person feels himself being driven by the imperious urge coming from the id. Stage two is the massive repression, together with complete domination by the outside, sometimes with completion of the urge/drive unconsciously.
Basically, the greater the frustration, the greater the rage. The greater the rage, the greater the denial and the deeper the state of hypnosis we go into in order to not be aware of the rage. Sadly, when it is finally expressed—it is often done in a trance state against some innocent person. Sometimes the rage comes out in a fit or seizure.
Let's look at a typical example of how this process began, usually in childhood. A parent (or other authority) is cruel, impatient or threatening. The authority is willful, perhaps taking something away from the child. The child becomes angry. The parent becomes even crueler. The child's anger reaches a point of such proportion, combined with frustration, that he goes into a state of protective inhibition.
This state is ipso facto hypnotic, because the critical faculty is lowered. In addition, the child feels a terrible conflict because of the rage and hatred he feels toward his mother. No one wants to feel hatred toward a parent.
This leads to another act of repression combined with great guilt for the anger. Often the dominating parent follows up with accusations, global condemnation and threats (such as "you will become a good for nothing like your father, you’ll be the death of me yet, or one of these days I will leave”).
From this point on, the rage toward the parent is suppressed and repressed. The child usually becomes compliant, though filled with anger underneath. Mark this well—in such circumstances, even the conforming, compliant child, though docile and obedient on the surface, is full of suppressed rage. But it is masked by hypnosis and overlaid with massive guilt (often expressed in self destructive behaviors and self condemnation).
The suppressed rage will begin to surface in lesser frustrating circumstances, leading to anxiety and then the hypnotic state. Sometimes the rage is vented in a seizure or fit, in violence toward another (usually weaker) person, or is converted into some other emotion.
As a matter of fact, the subconscious mind, which must express the emotional energy one way or another, will often convert the unacceptable emotion (such as rage) into another emotion. For example, rage is often converted into sexual feelings. This conversion is very common. It accounts for the sexual feelings that victims often discover they feel for the violator. Clients often develop sexual feelings for the hypnotist.
Suppressed hostility and resentment are often converted into love feelings. The victim of the cruel bully or dominating parent feels love for the tyrant, but this love is not true love. It is a conversion of anger. This paradoxical conversion can easily be duplicated and observed with laboratory animals.
The body and mind simply cannot cope for long periods of time with rage, and so it is transmuted into something else. Similarly, anger and suppressed hostility also may be expressed as disease. Heart disease, nervous disorders, and cancer can be brought on through such sublimation.
Can you now see how sin has consequences? Our sexual addictions, compulsions, illnesses, and even death itself are evidence of sin working from its hidden abode.
Let me go over the ground one more time. The process occurs unconsciously and automatically. The subconscious mind must express the emotion in some way. When it cannot be expressed in its present form, it is either dissipated in seizure or fit, channeled into some emotional illness, or some other emotion. Often a reversal occurs, again unconsciously and automatically, where one emotion is turned into its opposite. This same phenomenon is also seen in the animal kingdom. A raging dog, when completely dominated, frustrated, and trapped will suddenly become compliant and often feels "love" for the dominant master.
What happens next is that the victim child—dominated and treated cruelly—and having felt rage for the parent--goes into massive repression. But the underlying emotion, whenever it is sparked, must express itself somehow. In extreme cruelty, the emotion is rage and hatred. So unacceptable and so dangerous (for the well being of the little child) are these emotions that the subconscious mind then converts them into another emotion. Often the hate is converted into its opposite: sexual feeling (animal love).
This of course is something the person cannot bear to see. The victim, upon having sexual feelings intrude into consciousness, immediately suppresses the feelings. He does not want to admit he has these feelings. He does not understand that these feelings are the result of suppressed rage at intimidation. This victim may blame himself, assuming he is a bad person; when in fact, the converted emotion of lust is the result of the rage.
Recovery for this person will hinge on realizing the role of resentment and hostility in the inappropriate emotions, the guilt, self loathing, and other dysfunctional feelings and behaviors. A thorough understanding of the process together with, most importantly, letting go of the resentment toward the intimidator, is what is needed.
In all of nature, there is a pecking order, a hierarchy of dominance and submission. Everyone has a boss, in other words. Everyone and everything is subject to someone or something.
The herd animal is subject to the leader of the pack. When two animals fight, one wins and the other must submit and/or give up his life. The loser may not die, but gives up life force to the winner.
Incidentally, perhaps you can now see how evil, and the victims it inhabits, intimidate with cruelty, confusion or syrupy sweetness in order to conquer you and drain you of energy. “Evil sucks,” as one master therapist said. That’s why you must learn to stand back objectively, not responding emotionally, and also not resent the other person. Otherwise, the evil in them will use your energy to grow stronger, which is draining to you and bad for the victim of the indwelling identity.
In general terms, the animal is subject to the environment. Certain aspects of the environment may dominate—a parent, the leader of the pack, a predator, or a certain ecological niche on which it is dependent. There are two types of subjectivity. One is submission before a superior, more powerful leader or adversary. Another type of subjection is dependency for life support. In both types of subjectivity, there is also a need for identity.
Animals need a certain presence—plant or animal—which maintains them in their present form. The kelp fish needs kelp, both for life and for identity. The koala bear needs the eucalyptus tree for food and identity. Many animals, plants, fungi, and microorganisms are dependent on one particular element of the environment. Without that sustaining source, they die or else mutate to become dependent on and adapted to some other sustaining factor.
Many plants, animals and microorganisms are not dependent on a single life sustaining presence, yet they too depend on certain environments. A deer may not eat just one type of leaf, but it needs leaves, trees, and the forest. A fish needs the ocean as its environment.
The human being was created to be dependent on an inner environment. We were created to be subject to God, to be dependent on Him, and to take our identity from His sustaining Presence.
When we fall, we become dependent on the external person, place, substance, and presence to which we fell. Fallen men and women are subject to the spoken word for reassurance, to external authority, to the culture, and the peer group for identity.
The fallen person is dependent on externally based information. The entranced fallen person is subject to external stimuli. He is completely dependent on external signals and cues for information as to what to do. Is it any wonder that today, when society has fallen to its lowest level, that many of our children are learning disabled? They cannot concentrate, because their attention is grabbed by whatever comes along.
Others, like the koala bear which is dependent on only one type of eucalyptus leaf, take as their authority one type of person, their source of information from one source, and their identity from one leader or group. Some people are dependent on one type of food, such as the ritualistic food of their cult or culture.
Others are dependent on (addicted to) alcohol, meds, or a drug. There may not be an obvious leader around from whom the addict or alcoholic takes his identity, but “that which is seen is created by that which is unseen.” The master manipulator is there in spirit—the destructive spirit of a cruel or seductive mother or father, for example, who now lives on through the victim. Eventually the spirit of Satan Himself may become present through a slow insidious process of obsession, even possession.
Some people have been known to die when they lost their job or retired. Some have died when they lost their spouse on whom they were dependent. Drug addicts and victims of addiction to psychoactive meds go through horrible withdrawal pains when their drug is taken away.
It is natural for an animal to be dependent on the external environment. But it is unnatural for humans. That is why we feel degraded when we are dependent, subservient, or addicted.
Can you now see why we become like those we hate? It is because we need them to sustain the judgmental, prideful or seductive person we have become. It is because we also take our identity from them. When you hate another you are, in essence, appointing them as the external source and provider of the sustenance you need to maintain pride and judgment.
You then become just like your mother, and should a transfer of spirit occur, you become your mother.
Sometimes the transfer can occur from parent to child at the parent’s deathbed. In an emotional moment at the hospital bedside, just before the mother dies, the spirit of the mother enters the daughter. Afterwards the daughter feels odd. All she knows is that something happened. Now the spirit of the mother lives on in the child and causes her great torment. If she does not become aware of what happened, and deal with it properly, it may go on to infect the next generation.
Just as the kelp fish takes its identity from kelp, and the koala bear takes its identity from the Eucalyptus tree, and just as the wolf takes its identity from identification with a pack, so the fallen human takes his identity from what he has fallen to.
If you can see that it is true, then you are ready to look at some of the derivatives of this basic principle.
For example, the human was made and intended to be dependent on the wordless Word, what he or she knows is right in his or her heart. But when humankind decided to separate itself from Divinely inspired intuition in order to know itself as a god through knowledge, we did in fact come to know ourselves as self conscious creatures. But we also became dependent on words and external knowledge. That is why we are so dependent on words of approval or reassurance from others. That is why we gullibly believe in the words of external authorities.
The externally based hypnotized religious person looks to an external book as the source of his knowledge instead of an inner rapport with God's wordless Word within.
Can you now see why rejection is such a potent weapon? Whatever you are naturally dependent on—for example, a parent or a group—need only reject you or pretend to reject you--soon you will feel empty, alone and afraid. This will make you cling even more to that person.
Whatever you have become dependent on for a sense of security, you will have a terrible need for. If as a child, your mother (or aunt or whoever raised you) threatened to withdraw her love, it eventually began to strike terror into your heart.
Because of this psycho-emotional phenomenon, whatever you rely on for security—for a sense of everything being alright—can manipulate you into compliance just with that sort of threat.
Most people eventually give up on any idea of personal greatness. Instead, their security comes down to maintaining a false sense of innocence, being reassured about their health, reassured about their looks or their sexual performance, being liked, or some external financial reassurance like social security.
Now you see why parents are so threatened and defensive when their adult children come back to confront them. The parent's sense of security rests on their being seen as good or at least viewed as having done the best they could.
When a person's security rests on a false sense of innocence, others can easily manipulate it by threatening to see them in a bad light if they don't donate to a charity, help out, or do extra service with a smile.
Other psychotics’ basis for security, as I stated, comes down to their health, and of course, when their health begins to fail, they are threatened. If your security rests on having your papers in order, knowing where everything is, or having your bills paid on time—then anything out of order or any error in billing can throw you into an anxiety attack.
Need, dependency and terror cannot be separated. Whatever we fall to need we become dependent on. If you need to think of yourself as a wonderful person, then any hint of disapproval in another's face is threatening. If you are dependent on things being in order, then disarray becomes a fright.
Mostly our dependencies are downward compensations and conversions.
We are dependent on people's approval because we have fallen from God's approval. We are dependent on things being in order, because when out of order, we begin to awaken to honest guilt because, separated from God, our life is not in order.
In religious terms, we lack faith. We lack faith because we look for love and guidance in all the wrong places—out in the world and from people.
If you can learn to go through life without having any self image of yourself as a good or bad person, no longer looking to others for approval and reassurance, and if you began to stand back and look at your earthy needs as unnaturally natural--you could then gain a healthy emotional distance from the world and draw closer to your Creator, Who even now silently testifies within your being to the truth of the words you are reading.
Can you now see how important parents are? We are born as fallen creatures, first of the earth then of the spirit. We are born dependent on our parents. If we have good parents, they help us grow toward independence. If there is good in them and we respect that good, then someday we can transfer that respect to the Creator.
But if there is no divine good shining through the parent, then there is only human "goodness." Sooner or later it will fail us, and we will resent the parent and doubt God.
If we think we love our parents or even if we hate them, we will then be stuck with forever looking for someone like the parent to transfer our love and our hate to.
Remember the hierarchy I alluded to earlier. Like it or not, your parent was your earthly authority. Should you hate your parent, you will then be compelled to find someone else like the parent to hate.
It's a funny thing about hate; it only intensifies our need for love. The crueler the parent is, the more the child craves and needs his or her love. But the kind of love that such a parent can give is never the love that satisfies. Instead it is itself a need, a love out of hate or a love out of guilt. It contains worry, praise or bribe. It is more of the same failing love that makes the child resent. And that resentment then makes the child seek the absolution of the parent.
Fathers are the biggest failures of all. The failing father tempts the child to have contempt for him. The male children usually turn to mother for her consoling love which tempts. It creates a need for the type of woman who mother is.
The female children take their identity from the mother and gain security in their power to confuse and to manipulate men. For love, they look for someone like the father, hoping to work it out with him.
Actually this arrangement could have a happy ending if the husband she marries begins to wake up and realize his lack, looking to God for the wisdom and love that he (the husband) does not yet have but which he sees that he needs. The wife could then work things out with this man who would one day grow to have the corrective agape love that the wife could respect and come to love.
Alas, the husband is usually weak and looking for a consort or mother to reassure his ego. Devoid of true love, he seeks love from the wife for his fallen ego and earthy nature. She rises to the occasion but cannot have real respect for this momma's boy.
Our problems begin with other people—especially our failing parents. The resolution of our problems also will involve people--learning to deal with others with patience. It begins with learning to forgive our parents.
If you can forgive your parents, then you can be patient with others too. Mostly your resentments of others—including your husband, wife or children—are a transference of resentment from the parent(s) you hated.
Believe it or not, by learning to forgive your parents, your relationship with the Creator can also start to mend.
Mostly our hatred of our parents is tinged with resentment of God. We resent Him for favoring others (who seem to have more beauty, wealth, talent, or happiness than we do). People often resent God for not letting them have their will.
We were perhaps subtly rejected by one or both of our parents. We tend to feel that God has also rejected us. In other words we transfer our attitude toward our parent to God.
Indeed, it can give us a morbid, perverse sense of pride to feel that God hates us and rejects us. It justifies whatever we do. And as we drink, take drugs or wallow in resentment and depression, we can imagine that we are “showing” God just how mean He is by "making" us suffer.
At some point when our guilt grows great enough, we might decide to try pleasing Him instead. We try being good, going to church, and studying some holy book.
We decide to perform for Him, either assuming that He will reward us (as we think He did others who have more than we do) or else we are testing Him to see if He will make good His promises. But God can’t be tempted.
Our new goody two shoes attitude only tempts others. If we happen to succeed (though it will probably be short lived), then they feel like we are favored, and they may resent us or God. Remember, the resentful person's attitude becomes one of showing God something in order to receive a reward to show other people. When the so called saved or good person goes around flaunting his false goodness or letter of the law knowledge, he tempts others to either try to make him fall or to be good for some reward.
With our glory seeking attitude, when we fail and fall, we tempt others to have contempt for us, judge us, and have contempt for God we claim to represent.
There is something disgusting about human self righteousness. That is why some people feel more comfortable as an honest low life. Yet there is something disgusting about a low life too.
Understand this—self consciousness is a result of failing. Because we are born fallen, we grow to a natural self-consciousness about our fallen selves.
The little child is naturally innocent and not self conscious. Though the child would mature to become naturally self conscious when a teen or young adult, the child is often made self conscious before his time by the people around him who soon make him or her self-conscious by drawing attention to him, perhaps by pointing out some real or imagined imperfection, by tease, or else by excessive praise. Feeling self conscious is an awkward feeling.
Regardless of how we are treated, we all eventually become self conscious. It is perfectly natural and part of growing up, but it needs to be understood and outgrown. What begins as a natural self consciousness can become a morbid self preoccupation if not understood or when guilt grows.
Remember, we are all born as fallen creatures by inheritance. Ever since the fall in the Garden of Eden, we are the changeling progeny of Adam and Eve, and we inherit the fallen body and nature that we are bequeathed. We grow to self consciousness and a certain awkwardness and embarrassment about our fallen selves. We all inherit a fallen nature from Adam—fallen procreating bodies and fallen egos. That is just what we are. This needs to be understood, not condemned or condoned.
Should we try to egotistically get rid of our self consciousness, we must therefore seek to lower our awareness so as to be oblivious of failing or perhaps even take pride in our failings. Conceit, denial, and spiritual blindness are the results.
You will get plenty of help from the world, if your bent is prideful. Everywhere we are encouraged to take pride in everything. We are told to take pride in ourselves, pride in accomplishments, and pride even in our sexuality. By taking pride in our fallen selves, born of deceit and failing, we are repeating the ancient sin of pride and denying the truth about our fallen selves.
If misguided educators can convince us that we are evolved animals, then promiscuity and lasciviousness can be viewed as just expressing ourselves. Sex educators tell parents and kids that since "they will do it anyway" there is no use trying to be modest about our fallen selves, and we should just flaunt our sexuality and do whatever comes naturally. The result is confusion, guilt, lawlessness and rampant venereal diseases.
I must say it again: our fallen nature is unnaturally natural. Yes, we have a fallen animal nature, but it needs to be understood, not condemned or condoned. Then, through living modestly within moral boundaries and propriety, we may remain relatively uncorrupted. Through searching, some are destined to one day fully understand and then transcend their fallen nature.
So what can we do to discover the secret to transcending our fallen selves? That we are fallen and have animal hungers and lusts cannot be denied. Nor does it help to struggle with our fallen natures. But going to the other extreme and taking pride in and living a hedonistic immoral lifestyle is not right either.
The answer lies in awareness--and from awareness, understanding. Seeing our fallen selves, we experience modesty. We may express our sexuality within the bounds of holy matrimony. The institution of marriage was ordained by God for this very purpose: With a love of truth, in modesty and decency, we may live a proper life—yet having our fallen natures—until such time as God grants us the power to begin to moderate our practices and one day we may transcend our fallen needs completely. Until such time, you may live a good life, one with God's approval, in all Godliness and honesty.
The prideful person is either in complete denial about some imperfections, or is cognizant of them but sees nothing wrong with them.
There are natural imperfections, which we feel as needs. These are the imperfections we are born to. We cannot change ourselves, but we can learn to observe them objectively, neither condemning nor condoning, until such time as through grace, God permits us to rise above our imperfections.
There are unnatural imperfections which are acquired through associations and actions we are tempted by others to do. Fallen humankind, together with animals, is subject to the pull of the environment.
The environment has a mysterious hold on its creatures—call it a sort of magnetism.
Notice that animals have compulsions and repulsions, as well as attractions and aversions.
We are all familiar with electromagnetism—how magnets have a north pole and a south pole--with the two of the same poles repelling each other, and opposite poles attracting each other. The simple magnet is an amazing thing.
But perhaps more amazing is that all things seem to have attractive qualities, and other things are either compatible and drawn, or incompatible and repulsed. Why is the lichen drawn to the rock? What draws the bee to the flower? When something is magnetized, its structure is altered. And when something is drawn by the magnet, its structure is realigned to be compatible with the drawing magnet. The force field has an affect on what it draws.
Is it not possible that an analogous process goes on with all things—each having attractive and repulsive properties? Is it not possible that all of nature is endowed with attractive qualities that have a hold on animals and plants? The mysterious attractive quality provides a safe haven for the animals that live there, as well as security and identity. The animal identifies with and belongs to its ecological niche.
An animal's visual and auditory recognition capabilities are limited. Of course it recognizes some things by sight or sound. But it is more the presence of other things—their aura, their force field, their mysterious emanations--which the animal recognizes and either flees from or is attracted to.
The mysterious bonding between a parent and child is more than just sights and sounds.
Love is like a magnet. It attracts unto itself that which is compatible. It draws unto itself what it loves. It is our love which draws compatible thoughts. And when our love is self love, then we draw hateful thoughts about others whose egos compete with ours.
There is such a thing as true love. Few know what it is and few have experienced it. True love is an agape emotionless love. True love is also like a magnet, and a very powerful one. It attracts what is good, and it repels what is bad. It contains truth, and pride drops dead in the face of truth. That is why evils and prideful ones shy away from true love. To the prideful ones, truth is like a spoil sport (ruining their fun and dashing their illusions). They even view truth as a lie and because it makes them (in their wrong and prideful state) feel bad, they don't like it. So they shy away from it.
True love has a stern, no nonsense side to it. People who are truthful are not ego supportive. Their correction of us has an upbraiding quality. It is for this reason that a prideful person misinterprets a truthful person as being mean.
Today's conservatives are far from perfect, but they are at least closer to the truth. Notice how liberals are always misinterpreting (though some know the truth and are deliberately lying) conservatives and their values as being "mean, intolerant, and divisive."
However some of these liberals can be saved. Persist in holding to the higher ground. Your truth will make them feel as though they are being persecuted. And indeed they are, by the truth that comes through you. It they are fortunate, the truth will persecute them into relenting and having a change of heart.
Some prideful ones are stubborn and it takes them a long time to come around. Often it takes many years of suffering for their errors until suffering makes them wake up. It would be easier on them if they simply acknowledged the truth, but the stubborn ones continue on their error filled way drawing calamity, sickness and ruin to themselves. Only suffering may awaken them. Yet many of them remain stubborn and refuse to wake up.
But you can't know the heart of a person. Some are only temporarily stubborn and with time will come across to reason and humility. Others have been so abused and fooled that they do not even believe that there is such a thing as love. Besides, they have never seen it. All they have known is cruelty, tease and false love.
With your own family, most will respond to patient correction and calm reasonable direction. As a husband and father, for example, you must persist in pointing things out that need to be pointed out. Be persistent in your correction—just do so with patience and firmness, but without resentment. No need to be angry. Let it go.
No need for histrionics or exaggerations. Generally with very rare exceptions, there is no need for punishing your kids, for example. Believe me, the love coming through your calm, patient manner is a powerful force. Mostly kids just need watching and direction. Little kids need watching and simple protocols, such as brushing their teeth and so on. Older kids need boundaries, direction, and occasionally a "no" with an explanation.
They watch you, and soon they will regulate their own behavior knowing what is expected.
Your wife, gentlemen, may have come from a home where her father was not there for her. She may have been taken advantage of by a boyfriend or two, and so she is angry, contemptuous of men, and rebellious too.
Bringing flowers and chocolates will not work. What she needs is for you to be patient and principled, and yes at times stern (but with a twinkle in your eye). She needs to see a fatherly quality in you. She needs to be able to come against you with naughtiness or rebellion—and instead of seeing anger, resentment or use, she sees the face of love.
Deep in her soul she will sense that you love and want the best for the real her. Instead of using her naughtiness for pleasure taking or for resentment, you instead offer firm, patient, but kind correction.
There is something magic that takes place in the soul of a person who sees true love—perhaps for the first time.
Get your ego out of the way and behold the magic. Just remember, it is not your love that is operating, it is the love from God coming through you, because of your willingness to let go of use and resentment and to get your ego out of the way.
Of course there are some women who are permanent man haters. They love the power that their inner hell gives them, and in their hatred of men, they wish to inflict as much cruelty, confusion and suffering on men as possible. Should you be married to such a woman, she will do everything in her power to ruin you and the kids.
If you have kids, then you must be there for them and with great wisdom protect them from her madness.
Just bear in mind that most people are not bad, they are just naturally naughty. We are all born of the lineage of Adam and Eve. Kids are born with little egos and grow up to have big egos.
Egos do need some tease and challenge to grow. So don't be overly concerned about the intrigues and squabbling that just naturally occur between siblings. It's natural and all part of growing up. Hopefully the wise parents will create a calm and stable home environment and protect the kids from excessive tease, so that the kids can grow to be big natural, and uncorrupted, egos.
If they have responded to, respected, and loved the good shining through you, then when they have reached full stature, they will be able to make a free will choice of transferring the love for the good that they saw in you to the Father within. Your job will be done and God will say "Well done, my good and faithful servant."
True love makes prideful egos feel bad and so even those among us who have salvation in our future, during the time that we have not yet repented and become willing to admit we are wrong, also shied away from truth love.
Pride has a sort of polarity which is repelled by truth and love. But should a person repent, they change their polarity, and instantly instead of attracting all the wrong people and things, they now attract the right things. Suddenly they are incompatible with the lies and liars, the drugs and conscience killing activities that used to give them pleasure.
On the other hand, hypnosis is a fixation to someone or something that holds out promise to us. When reason is bypassed, the fixation becomes mindless. Can you now see why we are drawn to danger or bizarre things? They are fascinating and titillating. We love having our fancy tickled. The psychotic is drawn to experimentation and weird ideas. Why? Because his love is self love, and he feels catered to, excited by, and naughtily liberated by weird things and weird ideas.
We are drawn to what we fear the most and to what we resent. Why? Because these things excite our self love. They stimulate our defenses and our animal alertness, making us feel alive. To the extent we are challenged or menaced by them, our mind dwells on them and keeps calling them to mind.
Remember, love has a drawing quality. Fascination is a form of hypnotic love. The human mind--when drawn away from remembrance of the Creator, principle, and what is right--has been drawn away by something else. And if the soul leans toward the offerings and the source of the offerings, it is altered and reoriented toward the other.
We remain aware, reasonable and have freedom when we are close to the truth. When we are drawn away by something unreasonable or unprincipled, we are drawn into fantasy (unreality). But remember, we are drawn into fantasy by the source of fantasy.
We are drawn to unreason and the unprincipled by that which offers it.
Why are we drawn? First because we do not love truth and reason. We love ourselves and so we are interested in and lean to that which caters to us. Secondly, after having been drawn into a rapport with unreasonableness and sin, we are altered (just as a piece of metal is altered when it comes under the magnetic influence of a magnet.
Once altered, we now are aligned to and compatible with the new environment. Having been changed, our altered nature now views the magnetizer as a comfort and reinforcement.
Here's the progression. Because of our lack of commitment to what is right, we are easily drawn to some interesting, intriguing, challenging, or naughty alternative. Perhaps, because of our lack of perfect fidelity to principle, we are at first drawn through interest or resentment to listen to the other side.
Fascinated by the wooing and stroking of our ego by the other source, we toy with and entertain the alternative theory or lifestyle.
Next we are persuaded, cajoled, or teased into sampling or experimenting with it.
It is at this point that our physical nature is changed. By having descended into the world of drugs and beasts, we are altered to the new environment. Now our altered nature craves its new element. It is now drawn by and drawn to the mother of its altered nature, the environmental presence of the corrupter.